I think I'm going to really try to not be attached to her. like after I get my stuff back, I'm just going to let her message me when SHE wants to talk. I hate being the one trying to make relationships/friendships stick. I hate running after someone, even though they might care, I feel like I’m the only trying to keep it together. The way I see it, if she wants me as a friend, if she actually cares about me, she'll make an effort to talk to me and see me and make plans with me.  Right now she's not making any effort, which is understandable consider the shit she's going through, but I'd be there for her if she showed me she really wanted me there.